Positively Weightless

 I know, I know. I just took a break back in March, and here I am coming back after taking 3 more weeks off. That was not intentional by any means, May was just such a busy week for me. First it was Mother's Day and I did not plan ahead and write a post before Sunday that week, then the following weekend I moved and was exhausted, and then last weekend I was on a trip for one of my longest friend's bachelorette weekend. If anything, however, this unplanned break from writing only inspired the topic for today's post, and that is that sometimes things just do not go according to plan, and that sometimes that is for the best.

Moving is a perfect example to start with for this topic. Some of you may know that I had fully planned on moving out of my parents house last Spring, but 2020 was wild so that obviously did not happen. Instead it happened almost exactly a year later. It absolutely has worked out for the best though as I have found a place I love and have settled in nicely already and the situation just overall is really good. Another pro to the original plan not working out is it gave me even more time to prepare. I had pretty much every last thing I needed in order to be living in my own place from dishes to cleaning supplies and everything in between. Certain things I overlooked when preparing a year prior, and I saved a lot more money in the meantime as well. Even actual moving day we had a few things that I did not perceive happening but everything worked out for the best.

I think another great example, which is also an extension of my last example, would be 2020 as a whole. I know I keep bringing this up, but I think it is important to remind ourselves just how strong we have been over the past year. All sorts of plans had to change last year from trips, to weddings, to birthing plans of new mothers. It is important we mourn the loss of those things in our lives and realize it is okay to still be upset. If you had to re-plan a wedding, just think of how much nicer it is going to be now that mask restrictions have been lifted and your guests no longer have to be Covid tested. If you have to re-plan a trip like me, just keep in mind it will only be that much sweeter because of the wait, and you still have that to look forward to. If you had a baby during the peak of Covid, yes nothing is going to change that but hey, silver lining, when your child is older and acting up you can remind them you gave birth in a global pandemic! 😉 

Take some time and think about your life and how your planning has changed it. Trust me I am someone who plans ahead. I go to a new restaurant and I have already looked at the menu 3 times over online before we get there. I ask what clothes I should wear to something even if I know the event is pretty casual. I ask how we are going to split the check before even going to a restaurant if I am going out with a group of friends. I am very much a person who likes to have control over certain situations, but a lesson I even need to learn myself is that things almost always are not going to fully go to plan. Things are going to pop up that you are not anticipating. Planning is a great tool to have but there is always the risk of something going wrong. I am sure you can think of many times in your life that this has happened.

Overall I think the best practice is to realize that you can not fully control life. You can plan and plan and plan but there will always be that risk of something completely throwing a wrench in those plans. Life absolutely is unpredictable and we never really know what is going to happen next. I mean even as someone who does like to have a plan ahead of me, I feel like life would be incredibly boring if it always went 100% as expected every single day of my life. The important thing always is how we handle this. Do not panic or make any rash decisions. Life truly has a way of surprising us, and if a problem arises you just may be surprised at how easy the solution is. 

 Happy Sunday everyone! I hope everyone has been doing well and pushing through the last couple of weeks. I know, right after I returned to my blog I ended up skipping another week. This was completely unintentional I simply had a lot going on an completely ran out of time to write last week. There are a lot of changes going on, one incredibly exciting, and I am doing my best to balance everything until that big change takes place. I know I have talked about change on this page before but I think it is an incredibly important topic to talk about. Our entire lives are about changing and we do a lot of it every single year of our lives. So let's dive into that a little.

I think it is safe to say the last year or so has been about nothing but change. Now, I said I am not going to dive too much into talking about the pandemic anymore on this page, and I stand by that, but I think it is an important point to bring up for this topic. I am not going to go into the politics of the pandemic, vaccine, anything along those lines but think of all the change that came as a result. For most of us our lives changed in a big way. Our routines I was preaching about pre-Covid were pretty much demolished overnight (depending on where you live) we could no longer go to work, to the gym, or even to visit our loved ones. Change was forced upon all of us in some way, shape, or form. Now here we are in 2021 and still pushing through. No things are not quite back to normal but we are still getting through each day. We are maybe used to new routines and adapting to the constant changes in others. The important part is that it did not fully break us.

Change is inevitable. It simply is a part of life. I feel like a broken record but I must say once again that I fully believe that everything in life happens for a reason. Yes, a lot of the time it is unclear what this reason is. Some things you deal with are incredibly painful and I am sure none of us can even fathom to think about a reason that happened, but I truly believe down the line we realize the reason for many things that have happened and grow to accept them to some level. Friends that leave our lives, usually are making room for someone that belongs there even more. Loved ones pass on, but that just means they are no longer in pain or suffering physically or mentally. You never have to be happy with negative changes in your life, but I personally am able to find a little peace with the situation once I realize why that change may have occurred.

This weekend (and the last few, which is why I have been so busy) I have been packing up my things to finally move out of my parents house. I am so incredibly excited to be able to take this next big step in my life, but in some ways it is sad packing up the bedroom I have spent almost 20 years of my life in. There are a lot of things I will miss about being here, but that does not mean I am not incredibly excited to have my very own space to call home. It is time and I am more than ready! Plus I am not moving far away or anything of the sorts. The way I look at it, I am very blessed to have parents that have been okay with me staying with them this long, and love me so much that it makes this such a bittersweet moment. I know some people are not as lucky and could not wait to fly the nest.... or were forced to fly it earlier than they were ready for. See what I mean about change though? It has the power to evoke such drastically different emotions, sometimes at the same time like in my case right now. 

Overall I wanted to remind you all that change is inevitable and trying so hard to fight it does not typically do much. Once we learn to embrace it, it makes dealing with these changes much more manageable. Sure big emotions can come along with them, and it very important to deal with them, but aren't emotions what make us human? As I have said, everything happens for a reason. My big change was prolonged for a long time for many reasons, but I genuinely think that was all part of the unseen plan. I am thrilled with the way things worked out and I would not change a thing if I could. I hope you all learn to embrace these events as well!